"The loss of illusions and the discovery of identity, though painful at first, can be ultimately exhilarating and strengthening." Maslow.
Maslow describes self-actualization as “the desire for self-fulfillment, namely the tendency for the individual to become actualized in what he is potentially. This tendency might be phrased as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.” The self-actualizer shares merits and similarities and have the qualities below in common. According to Maslow and fellow psychologists, they share the following qualities:
An effective perception of reality
They have an effective perception of reality. To become a self-actualized: “gets real!”. It is important to be genuine and authentic and see things as they are.
Self-acceptance and Gratitude
They are comfortable with themselves, others, acceptance of self, others, and nature. Not only do they have self-acceptance, they are also appreciative of life basic goods. They are not cynics but have spontaneity and freshness of appreciation. They are unconditionally grateful.
Goal and task oriented
They are goal and task centered, humanitarians, autonomous, resourceful and independent. Even though they have clear objectives, they enjoy the journey toward achieving the goal.
Spontaneous, independent with great interpersonal skills
Although comfortable with solitude, they have developed fellowship with humanity and sustained profound interpersonal relationships. They are the master of the own destiny, and they do not hesitate to be unconventional. They are broad minded and kind. They have great people skills.
A great sense of humor
They enjoy a great sense of humor; as they say if “you cannot take a laugh, you should not have joined!”
Self- actualization is the attainment of all the highest goals.
Self-actualization peak experiences are like moments of insights, enlightenment or clarity as in meditation. They experience ecstasy, harmony, and understanding of the deep meaning of life and work. According to Maslow “Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beautiful and good, and so forth.” These states are comparable to the state of self-realization attained via meditation. It is the reaching of Samadhi, or enlightened when peace follows deep and abiding meditation. The Self-realization of the yogi has great similarity with the self-actualization of Maslow and the psychologists. It is a state of optimum happiness. And it is attained through work and working on oneself.